So You Want to be Better in Bed?!

As an educator and toy consultant, I’m frequently asked, “how can I be better in bed?”  Depending upon my audience, I have different responses.  While conducting

a toy demonstration, my response is, to utilize one of the great products that I have to offer. They can definitely increase your sexual exploration and skills, if used properly.  When asked in the educational or academic setting, I reply, “know your anatomy.”  Comprehension of sexual and reproductive anatomy can really help!

Anatomy lessons can teach a person what body parts to stimulate for maximum pleasure.  Teaching anatomy also informs the student of medical and science-based terminology, language that can be very helpful when seeking medical advice or assistance.  Adolescents usually learn about anatomy and reproduction during puberty.  Puberty occurs around age 10-12 for girls and 12-14 for boys (Campbell & Gentry, 2002).  There are multiple ways that an educator can teach anatomy to adolescents.

An educator can take the scholastic approach, using lecture and note-taking.  An educator may want to develop a PowerPoint presentation that highlights the reproductive part that are of interest to the group or educator.  As an assessment, the educator can create a quiz or test to determine if the students meet the goals and objectives of the lesson. During this approach the educator will define the body part and report its function. For example an educator teaching about a woman’s vagina may report the following; Vagina– is a long tube that lies between the bladder and rectum and is used as a passage way for menstrual blood and the birth canal (Jones & Lopez, 2006).    During this style of teaching an educator assign readings and utilize a more factual input.

Educators could teach anatomy using cooperative learning methods.  An educator can utilize the jigsaw method when teaching reproductive anatomy.  The educator can divide the students in to groups of four, external male anatomy, internal male anatomy, external female anatomy, and internal female anatomy.  . The educator can divide the students into expert groups, where each group is responsible for a particular portion of anatomy.  Once the experts groups have conducted their research, they will then be divided into learning groups.  The expert for each group will teach the learning groups about the assigned internal or external anatomy.  Utilizing the jigsaw method promotes social and developmental skills.

In all the different approaches it would behoove the educator to use visual aids.  If using a PowerPoint, the educator may want use picture or add a media piece to their presentation.  He/she can use a YouTube video on male and female anatomy.   Visuals make things clearer, more concrete, and less mysterious (Chirban, 2012, p. 143).  Visuals are especially important when teaching the internal reproductive organs.  Along with displaying the anatomy, the educator should recite the proper name for the body part and have the students recite it back.

Erogenous Zones give you wings 

When people are educated in reproductive terminology, they are to relay to healthcare providers any complications or problems they may endure.  While teaching anatomy for the purpose sexual pleasure, one should incorporate the erogenous zones.  While stimulating one of the erogenous zones, an individual may want to incorporate aides.  A great to use is a massage oil of some kind.  The more the erogenous zones are stimulating, the more pleasure an individual can experience.  Touch (tactile) stimuli are important for sexual arousal in both sexes (Jones & Lopez, 2006, p. 195).  There are certain anatomical structures whose sole purpose is sexual pleasure.  The female clitoris only function is sexual arousal (Yarber, Sayad, & Strong, 2010).  In order to advantage of this notion, one must know what and where the clitoris is located.  The clitoris consists of 8,000 nerve ends and the penis has 4,000!

Males and females share some of the same the same erogenous zones.  The nipples, lips, ear lobes, buttocks, and inner thighs are shared by males and females (Jones & Lopez, 2006).  Each mentioned erogenous zones can be stimulated by touching, kissing, licking, nibbling, and sometimes light blowing; all of which can possible assist you in the bedroom.    When stimulating females, a great zone to try to stimulate is the Grafenberg-spot (G-spot). To achieve maximum success in trying to stimulate this zone, one needs to know that it exists and its location.  Males also have what is being called the P-spot or the prostate gland.  The perineum is another anatomical structure of both males and females.  The perineum is located between the anus and vagina in females, and the anus and scrotum in males (Jones & Lopez, 2006; Yarber, Sayad, & Jones, 2010).  The perineum consists of many nerve endings.  In order to know the different erogenous zones, one must know their anatomy!



Chirban, J. T. (2012). How to talk with your kids about sex. Nashville, Tennessee: Thomas Nelson.

Jones, R. E. & Lopez, K. H. (2006). Human reproductive biology (3rd Ed.). Burlington, MA: Academic Press.

Yarber, W.L., Sayad, B.W., & Strong, B. (2010). Human sexuality, diversity in contemporary America (7th Ed.). New York, New York: McGraw-Hill.

One response to “So You Want to be Better in Bed?!

  1. Yay! Hooray for an anatomy lesson that includes erogenous zones! Yay! Thank you so much for writing this piece. Like, Logan’s blog on anatomy – I was sharing how we miss talking about these areas! Like how many young people know about their G/PSpot! Let’s start a revolution and make sure they all know!

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